Sunday, July 24, 2005

Suckers for crap...

After listening to some of my girlfriends’ love stories, I realized most girls are suckers for guys who treat them badly. While this is not a discovery worthy of a Nobel Prize, it is nevertheless a perplexing issue that should merit some discussion.

See, some girls are programmed to think that if they give their all, he would some day fall for her. To the female psyche, there might be something wrong with how she looks or the weight on her. Feeling insecured about one’s look is more of a woman’s domain than a man’s. So if she can make herself look better, she might be about the snag the bad boy on the block.

On the other hand, wanting the meanie may also be a part of human nature: we crave challenges. Just like how some guy friends told me they are intrigued by women they cannot have, some women are likewise fascinated by the man who is just out of their manicured grasps. So, sometimes girls fall harder for guys who treat them like crap while nice guys are only there to stroke their egos.

I have also heard some guys complain about how their girlfriends want to change them. Maybe it is inherent in women to take in something that is beyond repair and try to get it back on the mend. Maternal instincts? Lead the poor, angry, mistaken man onto the path of light. Right… dream on…

When you cannot get that baddie, get a pair of shoes girlfriend. There are a number of attributes in doing this:
- Shoes look good on you while the mean guy makes you look and feel bad
- You can ditch shoes easier than you can ditch men
- Footwear can be tried on for size before purchase. As for guys, well… the trying should come at a later part right? And it might be too late to bail if the size doesn’t fit…

Remember, we are mostly coded to want things we cannot have. So if the baddie treats you like dirt and you still want to dig your own grave, play hard to get and beat him at his own game.

5 comments:

Icebreeze said...

Hey.. I fully agree with the "changing" part.. Why can't women just love their partners for who they really are rather than trying to change them to be someone they want to love? If the partner you're with isn't the one you wanna be with, change a boyfriend, don't try to change him!

Adrian said...

Shoes are the rulest. Except that I only have like 3 pairs because I am always fucking broke. Plus I don't like shoes. Oh wait . . .

ei|een said...

sigh.. easier said than done.. human nature is such crap sometimes. :(

Heavenly Sword said...

As the Chinese saying goes, "Nan2 ren2 bu huai4, nu3 ren2 bu ai4..." Seems like there is some truth in it!

YellowPony said...

I agree. Everyone's a masochist.